Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends. Sally: Why not? Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved. . . . . . Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her. Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive? Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail 'em too.
This blog is inspired from the above lines. Not like I am an anti-valentine day enthusiast nor like I just saw the movie yesterday nor like I never had any friends who are girls nor like I hate girls nor like I am saying Guys are sex maniacs but all I am doing is just trying to put my views across for why guys and girls can never be friends.
Reason 1: SEX
Friendship starts when you meet someone, go talk and find out you have common interests. A guy when he goes and talks to a girl (stranger) he had either found the girl attractive or he thought that the girl found him attractive. This is what is commonly called “Hitting on a girl”. So the first step of friendship in itself is by sexual attraction. The guy secretly is waiting for a chance to take the friendship with the girl to the next level and one can be more sure of the same when he out-rightly negates and says we are just “friends”. With no further explanation required we have proved “Guys and Girls can never be friends”.
Reason 2: MARRIAGE:
You may seem to be the best of friends with a girl, no attraction etc. etc. but once the girl gets her wedding invitation and few weeks later she gets married and BOOM. Friendship is gone. No more catching up, no more meeting, no more eating out, no more phone calls and no more Friendship.
Reason 3: THE BREAK UP:
All is well till “THE BREAK UP” happens. It can be a break up for the guy or the girl who were friends till now but the result is the same. If it is a girl the guy friend seems to be the most noble man on earth for the girl and faster than you know the friendship blooms into something more. Also the guy will do exactly the only thing which the girl’s ex boyfriend refused to do for her. BAZINGA! If it is the guy who is out from the break up it will take little more time because guys go to booze first and then look for their next girl friend. 😉
Reason 4: THE PEER GROUP
One can argue that, if there is a group of guys and girls they can be just friends. In every group there will be people who are more close to some in the group, than the rest. So eventually this closeness will cause at least one guy and one girl to be more than just “friends”. So once this happens we come back to our rule but wait other guys in the group can argue that we are still friends with the girl. Here comes the harsh truth, I strongly feel only 1% of the relationships reach marriage. So the couples in the group are bound to break up after brief relationship and the group breaks leaving the friendship in the group broken. So leaving us with the fact no guys and girls are friends.
There is the other interesting case of mutual friend as well, where in you can just say she is my best friend’s friend so I am just her friend and nothing more. This is the most common and sure case of the mutual friendship going to the next level for all reasons mentioned in the post. So we are back to “Guys and Girls can never be friends”.
Reason 5: ALCOHOL.
Alcohol is the bond between a group of guys and it is the launch pad for the next level from friendship between a guy and a girl. A guy and a girl arguing to be best friends, meet over eat, drink (social drinking ;)) chat and then ….. the friendship is gone. No wonder Alcohol is highly inflammable and between the cotton (guy) and fire (girl) all that was needed was alcohol. Hence we are back to square one “Guys and Girls can never be friends”.
Reason 6: THE SHOULDER TO CRY ON.
Group of Guys: Dude, accept she is your girl friend!!! Guy: Guys, no she is already committed and her BF is in ..... and he is doing ...... so she does not see me that way nor do I.
This is the most lame argument for this topic of “She is just my friend”. A girl will always need an ear to hear and a shoulder to cry on. No offence meant for anyone but that’s the nature. The girl will want to tell something as small as a mosquito biting her to her boyfriend but will not be able to so because her boyfriend is busy (who can be really busy or can be flirting with some other girl in the name of healthy flirting). Here comes our guy friend to hear the story. She will be angry about her boyfriend not picking the call to hear this and our guy “friend” is there offering his ear/shoulder. Rest is all HIS-story. Now we know why long distance relationships never work. Hence coming back to our original rule “Guy and Girl can never be friends”.
Reason 7: THE GIRL:
Even if a guy is, lets say, is just looking for friendship which will happen only when he is busy with another girl; so busy that he is not trying to hit on his friend (who is a girl). Things doesn’t end there. The girl confuses the relationship so much and the guy(her friend) starts to read it as signals from her (thanks to the Booze talk the guy has with the his friends around who assures that the girl is sending him signals). To quote one of my friend who often says “A guy is good only until he gets a chance”. He then goes back to Reason 1 and everything comes back to “Guy and Girl can never be friends”.
But who gives a damn, All is fair……if its worth it!! 🙂